This Wednesday at my maternity clinical I experienced something that some nurses never get to experience in their whole career. Before going onto the floor for the day, my clinical instructor let us know that before we arrived that day there was unfortunately a fetal demise and we were going to be able to see the baby. At first I was extremely nervous because I didn’t know how I was going to react to seeing something so awful. Our clinical instructor prepared us by telling us that the baby was born at 29-weeks with anencephaly and cleft palate, and the one eye wasn’t formed to its full potential. The mom came in for her first prenatal visit at 29-weeks and had no fetal heart tones, so the doctors decided that it was in fact a fetal demise.
As we all sat and waited in the room for my instructor to wheel in the tiny baby, we were silent and taking time to reflect on what we were about to witness. Personally I was trying to prepare myself to see something so sad, but I was intrigued to see something so rare out of utero. When my instructor came back to the room, she removed the blanket from the top of the baby and we were able to get our first glimpse of it. It was shocking at first to see how bad of shape this baby was in but it was also interesting to see the different problems this baby was born with. It was interesting to see it in person rather than seeing a picture of it in the textbook.
After examining the baby, we took time to reflect on the experience and it was draining. I had the privilege of shadowing the charge nurse for the day on the unit so I was able to assist in the process of moving the baby from the labor and delivery floor to the morgue. The process came with a lot of paperwork and working with social work, the morgue, and the nurse that was assigned to the patient to properly complete the process. It was interesting to see how calm the different members of the team were in this whole process because it truly was stressful and draining.
My take away from clinical on Wednesday was that loss is a normal process in any section of the hospital and it is important to remain respectful to the family and to stay on task when handling the processes after the loss. Although it was an upsetting scenario, the charge nurse was able to explain everything to me in a way that opened my eyes to loss in a different way. I am thankful to have gotten this experience in my clinical practice because now I am more comfortable with loss and dealing with loss in the hospital.